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Gimme a break!

I’m one of those people who have a hard time asking for help, even if I really need it. I guess I’m afraid I’m putting the other person out and they’ll secretly resent me, which is stupid because I rarely feel that when the situation is reversed and I’m helping other people. In fact, I felt BAD when I offered to pick up some stuff at the grocery store for a friend who recently had twins and she said she didn’t need anything, that she had just gone the day before. I also think another small (okay… or not so small) part of me wants to prove that I can do it all. I can keep it together while my GI Joe is gone for a few months, raising the kids alone and keeping the house in order all by myself. After all, many women have it a lot worse than I do and get by just fine.

A month into the hubby being gone, of driving the Princess to preschool in the mornings and Monkey Boy to preschool in the afternoons, of lugging 50 pounds of groceries across an icy parking lot while holding a newborn in his carseat and the wiggly hands of two young kids, of 102 degree fevers and countless temper tantrums and meltdowns, of cleaning a room and walking into it five minutes later to find it covered in toys and cheerios, I’ve officially proven that YES, I CAN DO IT!

…however, that doesn’t mean I WANT to. Luckily my mom and grandma flew up to visit. It was their first time meeting our newest addition (I think he needs a cute nickname… Sir Chunksalot? The Beefinator?) and my mom’s first time to Alaska. I told them before they left that I fully expected them to come up, wreck my house, spoil my children and leave me to deal with the mess and that this was (sort of) okay- as long as they helped while they were here.

So far my grandma has a new nickname- the Baby Whisperer- and my mom has proven her mad organization skillz by helping me clear out our large walk-in hall closet and transform it into my new craft room. Do they make messes? Oh God, yes! Are they spoiling my children? Duh, they’re grandmas. But I cannot tell you how nice it’s been to have someone else calm my crying baby or have someone else read the 5th bedtime story. I forgot what it’s like to have 5 minutes to myself! They keep asking if I want them to spend a night or two at a hotel to give me a break and I tell them that while their almost constant bickering makes me a little batty, I am just so grateful to have them here that I could cry. Just this last week and a half I:
left the house BY MYSELF
went to the store with NO KIDS
took a NAP!
got my hair done (for the first time in TWO YEARS!)
didn’t have to make a meal
shoveled the whole driveway and walk without having to check on my kids every 30 seconds

It’s been…. well, beautiful. But it’s also made me realize that despite my unwillingness to ask for or accept help, I REALLY need it sometimes. I know this about other people. I yell at friends who don’t ask for help as much as I think they should. But when it comes to myself I seem to think I have to suck it up and deal or else I’m a failure. I’ll have another couple of weeks after my family leaves where it’s back to just me and this kiddos before my husband gets home, but at least I’ll have had this little break, a time to take a deep breath and relax before the weight of my little world is back on my shoulders. So my advice is this- take a break. Whether it’s a trip to the spa or five minutes of sitting on your bed with loud music playing to drown out the happy screams of your toddler playing in the next room, make sure you get some you time. No one can do it all but somehow most of us do, or at least manage some semblance of pulling “it all” off. It’s only going to be that much harder if you’re running on empty, so recharge and get some energy for the next big, awesome thing you do.


A simple way to look put together

One word: earrings. Find yourself a nice pair of simple diamond or pearl earrings (fake is okay, as long as they LOOK real 😉 ) and put them in. Don’t bother taking them out at night, as long as they don’t bother you. This way you won’t forget to put them in in the morning. I recently put in a pair of simple three-stone lever-back earrings that my husband bought me a few years ago and realized that all of a sudden my make-up looked better, my hair looked nicer and my outfit seemed to come together. I’ve left them in a few weeks now and they honestly make me feel just a smidge prettier than I normally do, which is nice. The best part? I don’t even have to think about them.

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Being a woman

Being a woman comes with many responsibilities- earning respect at our jobs through hard work, raising children to be the best they can possibly be, making relationships work by always listening and giving advice- and often, because of these responsiblities, we let our own well being fall to the wayside.

When was the last time you did a breast exam? Had a pap smear? Got your teeth cleaned?? For many, finding the time for these kind of appointments is difficult enough. Add to that a sense of fear or even just being uncomfortable and the days, months and years seem to fly by before we realize that they are well overdue.

A breast exam is easy and you can do it yourself at home with no appointment. To make it easier on you, I found a site that tells you exactly how to do it here. Still unsure? Check out YouTube for videos if you’re a more visual person. It’s not hard and could save your life.

A pap smear is a little more challenging and has three difficult steps. You have to call and make an appointment, which for some is the hardest part. You obviously have five extra minutes in your day if you are sitting here reading this. Go ahead and call now. I’ll wait.

Great! Now is the next hard part- actually going to your doctor’s office, putting on the flimsy gown (does the opening go in the front or back? For these appointments, have it open in the front. They will probably do a breast exam for you as well), and showing off the goods to your doctor. Even after having two kids and going to these appointments for 10 years, this is still difficult for me. Easier, yes. But still not fun.

Now comes the last hard part- waiting for your pap results. This can take anywhere from a week to a month, but if you haven’t heard from your doctor after two weeks, give them a call!! No need to stress out for any longer than you have to. Usually if everything is okay they will send you your results in the mail and if something was abnormal they will call. Ask your doctor at your appointment what to expect.

And now, the dentist. We’re supposed to go every 6 months to get a cleaning. If you have cavities or any other dental work that needs to be done, you may have to go back for a second appointment. A lot of people are afraid of the dentist or the dentist’s drill. But keep in mind that 30 minutes of you, gaped-mouthed with that bright light shining in your face is WAY better than years of pain and lost teeth. If you brush at least twice a day and floss regularly, you shouldn’t have too much to worry about anyway.

So ladies, consider this your wake-up call. You are important! You deserve to be healthy! And trust me, you will feel so much better when it’s all out of the way and you know everything is okay. Do it for yourself, do it for your friends, do it for your family. Because no one wants to lose you to cancer. Or smell your nasty breath.